By E. Raymond
Although you may never know it, people you look
up to, love, and respect could easily be sociopaths. They give themselves
away by exhibiting strange combinations of controlling behaviors, such as
being charismatic, calculating, extremely confident, while warmly embracing
those who fall under their influence, and quickly dismissing all who disagree
with them. Their ingenuous good natures and smiling faces hide sinister agendas
which they disguise in their hearts as friendship and love.
These types of sociopaths can be easily spotted
because of their affinity to one-way thought instead of open-minded discussions,
and they never learn from their mistakes, which they disregard as inconsequential
to their ultimate goal. From a controlling aspect, those under their influence
are never left to form their own conclusions, which are said to be inferior
to the sociopath's ideas. Instead, a sociopath's victim is expected to tow
the line and is reprimanded for daring to challenge the sociopath's
Sociopaths have only one agenda, to manipulate
and exploit in order to attain power and control. Instead of saying, "Do
what I suggest and see if it makes a difference in your life," they will
contend that your life is a mess because you are not following their edicts.
There is a vast difference between the two approaches. One puts you in control,
and the other puts the sociopath in control.
Sociopaths have no conscience. They plot and
plan how to maintain their status and use any means to attain that. They
will make you feel very special, but that is merely a manipulation. They
will win you over by their words and logic, and control you with their charisma,
enchanting you with their intelligence and vision. They will give you a show,
but you will get the bill.
Breaking up with a sociopath narcissist? Be prepared for the battle
of your life! While you are an emotional basketcase, he is as Cold as Ice!
While you are left holding down the fort and dealing with the real-life
responsibilities, he walks away from everything leaving you to mop off
his stage and pay his bills. He will punish you in ways you couldn't possibly
have ever imagined...
even acknowledge it to himself! Why? Because he's off charming the socks
off of new women as if your years together didn't even
narcissistic ex continually acts in abusive, bewildering and confusing
ways. He is not above committing destructive acts. When the breakup
becomes a reality, it is likely that his 'false persona' will completely
disappear all together and you will most likely experience the most hurtful
of behavior from him. He is completely lacking in empathy, and - since he
is not receiving any admiration from you anymore - he will dismiss you
and discard you as worthless to him, consequently dropping any fake
front that he use to put up in order to keep you in the relationship.
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Although sociopaths appear to develop personal
relationships, these relationships are only one-way, dead-ends, and only
last as long as the sociopath gets some kind of selfish reward. If you look
closely at these people, they are quite delusional, professing things that
they have not experienced themselves, usually only things that they have
read about or heard about second hand, even though they pretend to be very
experienced and wise.
Sociopaths also exhibit no anxiety, which is
a kind of self-hypnosis; because they really believe, that they are what
they profess themselves to be. Therefore, no one can ever convince them that
they may be wrong, regardless of the logic.
If you find yourself under the spell of such
a person, think twice before continuing the relationship. You could be in
danger psychologically or perhaps even physically. Sociopaths must get their
way; they are very controlling, and when things don't go their way, they
can become quite violent.
There are people in the world that have your
well-being at heart, and not their own aggrandizement. This is where you
will find legitimate relationships and an opportunity to discover the depths
of your own heart.