Do You Love a Sociopath?
I know this is a lot to read but try.
Have you ever wondered to yourself "What's wrong
with me? Why can't I make him/her love me?" Are you always attracting these
type of people who seem so good, people who make you feel loved and cared
for...until they don't get what they want? I've dated and have lived with
several of these type people. Some are even related to me.
Sometimes I have felt this way myself. Things
don't get heated for maybe the first half year or so. But once they do the
abuse and sometimes violence just seems to escalate. So why can't you leave?
What's keeping you there? You say you love him/her but your life sucks.
I found a few words for this problem...psychopath,
sociopath or antisocial personality. Narcissism comes to mind as well. So
I got on this computer and looked up the words. I found this on Wise GEEK.
"A sociopath is a person who has antisocial personality disorder. The term
sociopath is no longer used to describe this disorder. The sociopath is now
described as someone with antisocial personality disorder.
The main characteristic of a sociopath is a
disregard for the rights of others. Sociopaths are also unable to conform
to what society defines as a normal personality. Antisocial tendencies are
a big part of the sociopath's personality. This pattern usually comes into
evidence around the age of 15. If it is not treated, it can develop into
Breaking up with a sociopath narcissist? Be prepared for the battle
of your life! While you are an emotional basketcase, he is as Cold as Ice!
While you are left holding down the fort and dealing with the real-life
responsibilities, he walks away from everything leaving you to mop off
his stage and pay his bills. He will punish you in ways you couldn't possibly
have ever imagined...
even acknowledge it to himself! Why? Because he's off charming the socks
off of new women as if your years together didn't even
narcissistic ex continually acts in abusive, bewildering and confusing
ways. He is not above committing destructive acts. When the breakup
becomes a reality, it is likely that his 'false persona' will completely
disappear all together and you will most likely experience the most hurtful
of behavior from him. He is completely lacking in empathy, and - since he
is not receiving any admiration from you anymore - he will dismiss you
and discard you as worthless to him, consequently dropping any fake
front that he use to put up in order to keep you in the relationship.
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Heart: Breaking Up With a Narcissist - the Sociopath in Your Life' by
Visible symptoms include physical aggression
and the inability to hold down a steady job. The sociopath also finds it
hard to sustain relationships and shows a lack of regret in his or her actions.
A major personality behavior trait is the violation of the rights of others.
This can appear as a disregard for the physical or sexual well being of
Does this sound like anyone you know or have
known? I hope not. I searched a little further and found out that the psychopath
is just another name for sociopath. Here is what I found.
"The psychopath (or sociopath) make good first
impressions on others and seem very normal. But they are really self centered,
dishonest and undependable.They have three overlapping traits:
1) interpersonal deficits (grandiosity, arrogance,
2) affective deficits (lack of guilt and lack
3) impulsive and criminal behaviors (unusual
sexual behaviors and stealing)"
There are different degrees. And the only way
to control it is with psychotherapy. There are no drugs that work that I'm
aware of. So don't try to fix anyone like this. Run away.
I have a "relative" who I love and refuse to
give up on but I have to distance myself emotionally. The men who used to
be in my life are out of my life for good. I am left with a lot of battle
scars and would advise anyone who gets involved with such a person to get
away. You can skip this and read the poem but I found this very interesting.
You can find this on PSYCHOPATH @ groups.msn.com.
Unusual red flags of our sociopaths:
"These are 'unusual' things which those of us
who have sociopathic or psychotic tendencies. Here are some of our more
interesting things which are not usually found in 'red flag'
1. Often attributes others to saying things
about them "My mother says that I have the most lovely hair."
2. Has an abnormal 'startle response' (doesn't
jump or startle when we would) This is documented by professionals, but not
well known among the public.
3. Abnormal sense of smell or may not smell
things we can or not as well . Excessive use of colognes/aftershave/etc...
more prominently evident in males.
4. Normal people may sense or feel the presence
of 'evil' which seems to permeate from them. We may react with nausea. We
often say "Oh, he doesn't mean that." It is often intangible and something
we can't really define.
5. May show an odd fascination with fire, weapons,
drugs, alcohol or all of these.
6. Throws out items normally kept or hoards
junk. Has no items or discards any with only 'sentimental connections'. May
make odd comments on emotional attachment to objects, such as failure to
show emotional attachment we might expect them to show.
7. Homophobic (angry protests about gays)
8. Unusual fascination with body function of
9. Low heart rate, blood pressure.
10. Failure to ejaculate in a normal way.
11. Appears almost too willing to help us out
in the early stages.
12. Will say "Trust me." "Believe me." (which
normal people seldom do) They seem trustworthy as s/he targets us."
I wrote a poem to go with this advice.
Keep in mind this has nothing to do with my
man at present. However I am still dealing with an ex and there's a relative
I love who seems to be a sociopath.
When he walks into a room
All eyes stare.
His brightness lights the gloom
He will shower you with love
But he won't care.
When it comes to push and shove
You aren't there.
You can run but you can't hide.
He will take you for a ride.
Don't go there.
Don't let him break your heart
Strip you bare.
He will pick your soul apart.
It's not fair.
Run away. Don't walk.
He won't share.
Go today. He's all talk.
Danger in the air.
Copyright 2008-2009 © Debra Mckee
I blog a lot. I want to be a paid writer. I'm
currently working on a science fiction novel. I love to write poetry and
will publish them soon. You will notice most of my articles end with a poem.
It's the way I best express myself. Enjoy