In Love With a Man Who Has a Counterfeit Heart?

Here's how to breakup with a sociopathic
narcissist and still keep your sanity
(or whatever sanity he has left you with!)

Living with, Loving and LEAVING the Sociopath Narcissist


Do You Love a Sociopath?
By Debra K McKee

I know this is a lot to read but try.

Have you ever wondered to yourself "What's wrong with me? Why can't I make him/her love me?" Are you always attracting these type of people who seem so good, people who make you feel loved and cared for...until they don't get what they want? I've dated and have lived with several of these type people. Some are even related to me.

Sometimes I have felt this way myself. Things don't get heated for maybe the first half year or so. But once they do the abuse and sometimes violence just seems to escalate. So why can't you leave? What's keeping you there? You say you love him/her but your life sucks.

I found a few words for this problem...psychopath, sociopath or antisocial personality. Narcissism comes to mind as well. So I got on this computer and looked up the words. I found this on Wise GEEK. "A sociopath is a person who has antisocial personality disorder. The term sociopath is no longer used to describe this disorder. The sociopath is now described as someone with antisocial personality disorder.

The main characteristic of a sociopath is a disregard for the rights of others. Sociopaths are also unable to conform to what society defines as a normal personality. Antisocial tendencies are a big part of the sociopath's personality. This pattern usually comes into evidence around the age of 15. If it is not treated, it can develop into adulthood.

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Breaking up with a sociopath narcissist? Be prepared for the battle of your life! While you are an emotional basketcase, he is as Cold as Ice! While you are left holding down the fort and dealing with the real-life responsibilities, he walks away from everything leaving you to mop off his stage and pay his bills. He will punish you in ways you couldn't possibly have ever imagined...

....and not even acknowledge it to himself! Why? Because he's off charming the socks off of new women as if your years together didn't even exist!

The sociopathic narcissistic ex continually acts in abusive, bewildering and confusing ways. He is not above committing destructive acts. When the breakup becomes a reality, it is likely that his 'false persona' will completely disappear all together and you will most likely experience the most hurtful of behavior from him. He is completely lacking in empathy, and - since he is not receiving any admiration from you anymore - he will dismiss you and discard you as worthless to him, consequently dropping any fake front that he use to put up in order to keep you in the relationship. Click here to read 'The Counterfeit Heart: Breaking Up With a Narcissist - the Sociopath in Your Life' by Tigress Luv


Visible symptoms include physical aggression and the inability to hold down a steady job. The sociopath also finds it hard to sustain relationships and shows a lack of regret in his or her actions. A major personality behavior trait is the violation of the rights of others. This can appear as a disregard for the physical or sexual well being of another."

Does this sound like anyone you know or have known? I hope not. I searched a little further and found out that the psychopath is just another name for sociopath. Here is what I found.

"The psychopath (or sociopath) make good first impressions on others and seem very normal. But they are really self centered, dishonest and undependable.They have three overlapping traits:

1) interpersonal deficits (grandiosity, arrogance, deceitfulness)

2) affective deficits (lack of guilt and lack of empathy)

3) impulsive and criminal behaviors (unusual sexual behaviors and stealing)"

There are different degrees. And the only way to control it is with psychotherapy. There are no drugs that work that I'm aware of. So don't try to fix anyone like this. Run away.

I have a "relative" who I love and refuse to give up on but I have to distance myself emotionally. The men who used to be in my life are out of my life for good. I am left with a lot of battle scars and would advise anyone who gets involved with such a person to get away. You can skip this and read the poem but I found this very interesting. You can find this on PSYCHOPATH @ groups.msn.com.

Unusual red flags of our sociopaths:

"These are 'unusual' things which those of us who have sociopathic or psychotic tendencies. Here are some of our more interesting things which are not usually found in 'red flag' documents...

1. Often attributes others to saying things about them "My mother says that I have the most lovely hair."

2. Has an abnormal 'startle response' (doesn't jump or startle when we would) This is documented by professionals, but not well known among the public.

3. Abnormal sense of smell or may not smell things we can or not as well . Excessive use of colognes/aftershave/etc... more prominently evident in males.

4. Normal people may sense or feel the presence of 'evil' which seems to permeate from them. We may react with nausea. We often say "Oh, he doesn't mean that." It is often intangible and something we can't really define.

5. May show an odd fascination with fire, weapons, drugs, alcohol or all of these.

6. Throws out items normally kept or hoards junk. Has no items or discards any with only 'sentimental connections'. May make odd comments on emotional attachment to objects, such as failure to show emotional attachment we might expect them to show.

7. Homophobic (angry protests about gays)

8. Unusual fascination with body function of bowel movements/products/flatulence.

9. Low heart rate, blood pressure.

10. Failure to ejaculate in a normal way.

11. Appears almost too willing to help us out in the early stages.

12. Will say "Trust me." "Believe me." (which normal people seldom do) They seem trustworthy as s/he targets us."

I wrote a poem to go with this advice.

Keep in mind this has nothing to do with my man at present. However I am still dealing with an ex and there's a relative I love who seems to be a sociopath.

THE SOCIOPATH

When he walks into a room

All eyes stare.

His brightness lights the gloom

Just beware.

He will shower you with love

But he won't care.

When it comes to push and shove

You aren't there.

You can run but you can't hide.

Be aware.

He will take you for a ride.

Don't go there.

Don't let him break your heart

Strip you bare.

He will pick your soul apart.

It's not fair.

Run away. Don't walk.

He won't share.

Go today. He's all talk.

Danger in the air.

Copyright 2008-2009 © Debra Mckee

I blog a lot. I want to be a paid writer. I'm currently working on a science fiction novel. I love to write poetry and will publish them soon. You will notice most of my articles end with a poem. It's the way I best express myself. Enjoy

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I blog a lot. I want to be a paid writer. I'm currently working on a science fiction novel. I love to write poetry and will publish them soon. You will notice most of my articles end with a poem. It's the way I best express myself. Enjoy


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